You are the way you are because you chose to be what you are. No one forced you to be in a particular way. It was after all a way of being chosen by you and no one else. You may argue that I am “this” because that – ‘thing happened to me’, ‘person said me to do so’, ‘person did such & such thing to me’, ’I was helpless’, ‘luck did not favour me’, ‘situation was like that’ and ‘what not’… But at the end of day you ultimately have to take responsibility for your actions and also your state of being.
At times the actions we take are ex tempore. We may not even have a fair enough idea of the results our actions will lead to. We act in a flash of second. But still the fact remains that those were our actions and we and only we are responsible for the result that follows. Similar is the case of inaction. If you did not act upon a situation for any reason what so ever, you owe the responsibility.
Casting the responsibility of your state of being upon ‘someone’ or ‘something’ out there won’t do any good to you. Whether you are happy, sad, joyous, upset…. You solely are responsible. You are happy because you chose to be happy and similar suit follows for everything else.
You are not upset because of someone somewhere did something to you. It’s you who expected X and when X did not occur you became upset. A cricket fan is upset when India loses a match because s/he expects India to win. Had the expectation of win not been there, the upset would not have been there. One may argue that there is nothing wrong in expectations. True, there is nothing wrong or right in expecting. But then this very Expectation leads to Upsets which no man would enjoy & you are responsible for expecting.
No one can make you happy, you have to be happy. It’s not easy right – to turn a blind eye to what is happening around you and still be happy. Agreed it’s not easy but then is there any other choice. It’s not about partying out when things around you are gloomy. It’s about choosing to be happy rather than being upset.
There are few things about which you can’t do anything. Your boss will be the way he is and so will be your wife. You can’t change people. Each being is different and they have right to be different. The choice is yours – “accept the way they are” or “make your own life miserable by thinking about changing them all the time”
Ultimately whether you are happy or otherwise depends entirely upon you and you solely are responsible for what happens to you.
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Thanks for reading. Please do not construe the above write up as any piece of advice in any manner whatsoever.
At times the actions we take are ex tempore. We may not even have a fair enough idea of the results our actions will lead to. We act in a flash of second. But still the fact remains that those were our actions and we and only we are responsible for the result that follows. Similar is the case of inaction. If you did not act upon a situation for any reason what so ever, you owe the responsibility.
Casting the responsibility of your state of being upon ‘someone’ or ‘something’ out there won’t do any good to you. Whether you are happy, sad, joyous, upset…. You solely are responsible. You are happy because you chose to be happy and similar suit follows for everything else.
You are not upset because of someone somewhere did something to you. It’s you who expected X and when X did not occur you became upset. A cricket fan is upset when India loses a match because s/he expects India to win. Had the expectation of win not been there, the upset would not have been there. One may argue that there is nothing wrong in expectations. True, there is nothing wrong or right in expecting. But then this very Expectation leads to Upsets which no man would enjoy & you are responsible for expecting.
No one can make you happy, you have to be happy. It’s not easy right – to turn a blind eye to what is happening around you and still be happy. Agreed it’s not easy but then is there any other choice. It’s not about partying out when things around you are gloomy. It’s about choosing to be happy rather than being upset.
There are few things about which you can’t do anything. Your boss will be the way he is and so will be your wife. You can’t change people. Each being is different and they have right to be different. The choice is yours – “accept the way they are” or “make your own life miserable by thinking about changing them all the time”
Ultimately whether you are happy or otherwise depends entirely upon you and you solely are responsible for what happens to you.
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Thanks for reading. Please do not construe the above write up as any piece of advice in any manner whatsoever.
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